There’s Something I Need to Get Off My Chest

I’M GOING ON EXTENDED LEAVE AT THE END OF JANUARY 2027

My last available booking date will be 26 January 2027. I’ll be taking an extended break from work and will be completely unavailable and offline throughout February 2027, including for bookings, messages and enquiries.

I hope to start returning gradually sometime between March and May, but I won’t be announcing a firm return date until I’m ready. Read on for the story behind my time off.

BIG NEWS EVERYBODY!

In early 2027, I’ll be having top surgery. This is a substantial body modification in which I will be having my breasts completely removed, leaving me flat-chested. This is an elective surgery, which I am doing because I want to.

And with that comes a rather significant new chapter in my life, both personally and professionally.

I’ll be taking an extended break from work, so I’ll discuss my availability further down, but I also want to talk about why.

WHY? Your tits are amazing!

I agree, I have a pretty great set of tatas, and during sex I love having them played with. They’ve brought me a lot of pleasure over the years, as many of you could attest to, and I’ve loved all of that.

But outside the bedroom, I have never enjoyed having breasts, and I’m at a point in my life where I’m just about done with these things and I want them gone.

Physically, I find them cumbersome and heavy, and they cause back pain and various wardrobe stresses, like needing to find the right bra for my top, or having to wear a bra at all.

But on a more important note, my breasts have never felt particularly congruent with my sense of self. I’m ready to change my body to better reflect who I am. I think being able to make this choice is actually really fucking cool and very sci-fi coded, and I’m jazzed about it.

So, I’m Trans

Surprise! Or perhaps not, depending on how well you know me.

I identify as non-binary, and I think of myself using they/them pronouns.

If those words are unfamiliar, here’s the short version: I don’t actually identify as a woman. I was born with a vulva and assigned female at birth, but I have never felt like a girl or a woman, and I’m now ready to make some changes to my physique so that I can feel more myself.

That doesn’t necessarily mean I want to look like a man, live as a man, or abandon everything feminine about me.

In fact, I quite enjoy femininity sometimes.

I love feeling beautiful. I love dressing up, lingerie, makeup, and all the wonderful things traditionally associated with being a woman. I don’t anticipate suddenly losing my appreciation for any of those things.

But enjoying femininity and identifying as a woman aren’t the same thing. Wanting a more masculine body doesn’t mean I need to adopt an entirely masculine presentation.

I can be masculine, feminine, both, neither, or something in between, depending on how I feel. That’s the beauty of being free to decide for myself.

Something else worth mentioning is that I’m not particularly concerned with how other people perceive my gender.

I’m not transitioning because I need the world to see me differently. I’m doing it because I want to feel more comfortable in my own body. This is a very personal decision, and my relationship with gender is about how I feel, not how anybody else feels about me.

You can use whatever pronouns you like for me, whether that’s she/her, he/him or they/them. If you want to know how I think of myself, though, it’s they/them.

If you’ve always thought of me as a woman and can’t quite shake that perception, that’s fine too.

And I don’t mean that I’m being accommodating, or graciously tolerating something that secretly upsets me. I’m genuinely indifferent. You can think of me however you like. It has very little bearing on how I understand myself.

I do want to make it clear that this is my personal experience, not a reflection of how other transgender people feel. For many trans people, having their gender recognised and their pronouns respected is incredibly important. That’s entirely valid, and I wouldn’t want anyone to take my indifference as permission to disregard somebody else’s identity.

But for me, the exciting part of transitioning isn’t changing how other people see me.

It’s changing how I feel when I inhabit my own body.

If you’re finding any of this confusing, I’ve written a separate guide, Gender, Pronouns and Transgender People: A Beginner’s Guide, to explain the terminology and answer some common questions.

Finding My Way Here

My relationship with gender has been something I’ve spent a lot of time exploring and understanding.

One of the most interesting things about this process has been recognising the difference between how other people perceive me and how I actually experience myself.

I’ve spent much of my life being perceived as a woman. And I’ve often been perfectly comfortable expressing myself in ways that other people read as feminine. To be honest, I have seen my body sort of like a doll that I get to dress up, and that can be fun and sexy. I like dressing you up too!

Why Now?

This is actually something I have wanted to do for decades, but the timing never felt right.

My womanly, feminine curves have granted me considerable success in the sex industry, and it’s been a business decision to keep that going for as long as I could stand it.

But it’s something I no longer want to delay. It’s time for me to have a body I feel more comfortable in, regardless of the potential business losses.

Making Some Changes

Top surgery is something I’ve chosen for myself, and I’m genuinely excited about it.

In addition to my flatter chest, I am also pursuing Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT). This means taking testosterone (often referred to simply as T), which will make me become less feminine slowly over time.

On a personal note, another factor in the timing is the ticking clock of menopause. I’m already experiencing the hormonal chaos of perimenopause, and I’m hopeful that testosterone will give me a way out of at least some of that nonsense.

Some of the changes brought on by my HRT treatments may be quite noticeable. Others may be subtle. But over time, the way I look and sound is going to change, and I wanted to give you a heads-up on that.

I don’t have a particular image of what I’m supposed to look like at the end of all this. I’m not aiming for anything in particular, and results may vary. The HRT may make me look substantially different in the space of a few months, or it might take years for any noticeable visible difference.

What it changes very quickly is my internal state. My hormonal profile has a huge impact on my wellbeing, and I am very much looking forward to escaping the waking nightmare that is perimenopause.

And, importantly, this isn’t about becoming a completely different person, or identifying as a man. I identify as non-binary, and will continue to do so. I will continue offering services such as the Girlfriend Experience and I’m really looking forward to coming back and seeing how my work evolves over time to align with my changing body.

What Does This Mean for Ember August?

This is probably the question that will be most relevant to some of you.

If you’ve known me as a particularly feminine companion, you might be wondering what my transition means for the experiences I offer.

The simple answer is that I’m still Ember.

I’m still passionate about pleasure, connection, curiosity, exploration, and all the wonderful things that make human intimacy so interesting.

I’m still someone who loves dressing up in sexy lingerie, creating beautiful experiences, and connecting with people in ways that feel authentic and enjoyable.

Over time, my body will become more masculine, and there may be a point at which I simply am no longer your “type”.

That time may have already come. If you disagree with me on a political level about transitioning, then continuing to see me may not be appealing to you anymore. That’s completely understandable.

You are allowed to have preferences, and it’s okay if my curves were a big factor in why you were booking me.

I’ll happily recommend some other curvy babes who can offer similar experiences to what I do, and you could still attend my orgies even if you don’t want to play with me.

My transition is not the end of femininity in my work. Nor do I intend to commit myself to performing femininity simply because it’s what people have come to expect from me.

The lingerie will still be an available option, but if you would like to explore my masculine side, that will also be an option.

One of the things I’ve always valued about my work is the freedom to be myself. I’ve built my career around genuine desire, honest communication, and the idea that intimacy doesn’t need to follow somebody else’s script.

It would be rather strange to spend so much time encouraging other people to embrace their authentic selves while denying myself the same opportunity.

And if there’s one thing I’d love people to take away from this announcement, it’s that gender doesn’t determine what somebody enjoys, how they behave, or what kind of lover they are.

I’ve written more about that in my article Traditional Gender Roles Are Ruining Your Sex Life.

Taking a Little Time for Myself

Now, the practical part.

My final availability for bookings beforehand will be 26 January 2027.

My calendar for my last couple of months with breasts and before my transition is already filling up! If you’d like to say goodbye to the girls, please check my availability calendar and get in touch to book sooner rather than later.

After that, I’ll be taking an extended hiatus.

I’ll be completely unavailable throughout February.

No bookings, no responding to enquiries, no catching up on emails, no website tinkering, no sneaking in a little bit of work because I’m bored.

I’m giving myself permission to switch off completely, focus on recovery, and enjoy this rather significant moment in my life.

For someone who runs their own business and is accustomed to being constantly available, that might actually be the more challenging part!

I expect to begin returning sometime between March and May, but I’m deliberately not setting a firm date, and when I do, I will have no tits. I will not be making any bookings at all past 26 January until I have recovered enough to start making plans.

Some aspects of my work will be easier to return to than others. I may begin with things that don’t require much physical activity, such as sexting, conversation, coaching or relaxed dates, before gradually returning to more physically involved experiences.

I’ll be guided by my recovery, my energy, and what feels comfortable for my body.

I don’t want to rush it, and I’m not going to promise a particular timeline before I know what I need.

If you’d like to know when I’m back, you can follow my Bluesky or Telegram for updates. I’m also planning to offer a way to register your interest so I can let you know when I’m ready to start taking bookings again.

A New Chapter

There’s something quite exciting about reaching a point in your life where you know yourself well enough to make choices that might once have seemed impossible.

I’m not approaching this transition with the idea that I need to become somebody else.

I’m looking forward to becoming more comfortable being exactly who I am.

There will undoubtedly be surprises along the way. Things I’ll discover about myself, things I’ll enjoy, things I’ll need to adjust to.

And I don’t feel any particular obligation to have all the answers before I begin.

I’ve always believed that curiosity is one of the most valuable things we can bring to our relationships, our sexuality, and our understanding of ourselves.

It seems only fair that I bring some of that curiosity to my own life, too.

To everyone who has supported me, shared experiences with me, or simply enjoyed getting to know me over the years, thank you.

I’m excited about what comes next.

Same Ember. A few less curves, a whole lot more me.