Sex Education, Intimacy Coaching & Experiential Learning

Learn About Sex, Understand Yourself, and Develop the Skills to Get More of What You Want

I believe sex and intimacy are things we can continue learning about throughout our lives.

Whether you’re completely inexperienced or have been sexually active for decades, there’s always something new to discover about yourself, your desires, your body and the ways you connect with others.

Perhaps you have a hundred questions about sex and want somebody knowledgeable and unflustered to answer them.

Maybe you’re struggling to understand what you want, how to communicate it, or why your intimate relationships aren’t quite meeting your needs.

Perhaps you and your partner would like to explore something new together, or you’ve found yourselves in a sexual rut and aren’t sure how to get out of it.

Or perhaps you’d love the opportunity to develop your confidence and practical sexual skills through hands-on experience.

I’m Ember August, a queer, neurodivergent independent companion and sex educator with a particular passion for consent, communication, pleasure and the psychology of intimacy.

I offer a range of educational experiences, from relaxed, candid conversations to ongoing intimacy coaching, embodied learning and hands-on sex education.

Some experiences involve sexual intimacy. Others are entirely non-sexual. You can choose what feels right for you.

I’m comfortable discussing subjects that other people might find awkward, and I welcome adults of all ages (18+), genders, sexualities, ethnicities, shapes, sizes and experience levels.

You don’t need to arrive knowing exactly what you’re looking for. Curiosity is a perfectly good place to begin.

Find the Right Experience for You

There are lots of different ways to learn about sex, intimacy and human connection. Some people want practical answers to specific questions, while others are looking for a deeper understanding of themselves or an opportunity to develop their skills through experience.

Here’s a quick introduction to the different ways we can work together.

Hands-On Sex Education

Learn about sex by actually experiencing it.

For those who want practical sexual education alongside genuine intimacy, these sessions offer opportunities to learn through experience, with conversation, guidance and honest feedback along the way. We can explore sexual techniques, pleasure, communication, confidence and the psychology of intimacy, all within a relaxed, consensual encounter. Ideal for people who want to become more confident lovers, explore unfamiliar experiences or ask questions as we go.

One-off appointments from $700. Available in person, in Melbourne, Geelong and FMTY.

Intimacy Exploration Programme

A softer landing into intimacy, with time to build familiarity and confidence.

Some people need more time to feel comfortable with sexual intimacy, and that’s exactly what this programme is designed to offer. Through a personalised series of appointments, we combine conversation, intimacy coaching, practical education and opportunities for hands-on sexual exploration with me, at your own pace. Particularly welcoming to queer people, late bloomers, adult virgins, people returning to intimacy after long absences, and anyone who feels nervous or unsure where to begin. This is Hands-On Sex Education, but with a goal of growth, self-discovery, and building comfort.

Two-hour introductory session $900, followed by up to three 90 minute sessions at $700 each. Available via Zoom, phone or in person in Melbourne and Geelong.

Candid Sex Ed Chats

All the questions you’ve always wanted to ask about sex, answered without embarrassment.

Sometimes you just want to sit down with someone who knows a thing or two about sex and ask absolutely anything. Anatomy, pleasure, sexual techniques, queer sexuality, kink, relationships, or whatever else you’re curious about. These are relaxed, entirely conversational sessions where nothing is too awkward to discuss. No nudity, no physical touch, and no introductory programme required.

Standalone sessions from $150. Available via text, zoom, phone call or in person in Melbourne and Geelong.

Personalised Intimacy Coaching for Individuals & Couples

Understand yourself, communicate your needs and develop more fulfilling intimate relationships.

Where sex education is often about acquiring knowledge, intimacy coaching is about understanding yourself and developing skills you can apply to your relationships and everyday life. We might explore desire, vulnerability, communication, boundaries, people-pleasing, sexual dissatisfaction or relationship dynamics. I work with individuals and couples through ongoing, personalised coaching, combining conversation, reflection and practical, non-sexual exercises. Couples can attend together or individually, depending on what would be most useful.

Two-hour introductory consultation: $450. Ongoing sessions from $175. Available via Zoom, phone or in person in Melbourne and Geelong.

Embodied Choice Coaching

Discover what you want, learn to ask for it, and develop a deeper understanding of consent.

Embodied Choice Coaching explores the often-surprising dynamics of giving, receiving, taking and allowing. Through conversation and simple, non-sexual exercises, we develop greater awareness of desire, boundaries, communication and choice. These skills apply to far more than sex, influencing our friendships, relationships, families and everyday interactions. You can explore the Wheel as a dedicated learning experience or as part of ongoing intimacy coaching.

Two-hour introductory session: $450. Ongoing sessions from $200. Available via Zoom or in person in Melbourne and Geelong.

Explore Each Experience in More Detail

Practical sexual skills, honest feedback and learning through experience.

There’s only so much you can learn about sex from reading, watching or talking about it. Sometimes the most useful education comes from actually experiencing something yourself.

My Hands-On Sex Education sessions combine candid conversation, practical guidance and consensual sexual intimacy, allowing us to explore touch, pleasure, communication and connection in real time.

Perhaps you want to learn how to pleasure a partner, understand different bodies, improve your technique, or develop greater confidence in your own sexuality.

Or maybe you’re interested in the psychology of intimacy, discovering how expectations, insecurities and communication influence our sexual experiences.

We can talk, experiment, pause, adjust and learn together. There’s no need to pretend you know what you’re doing, and no expectation that you get anything right the first time.

Investment

  • 1 hour: $700
  • 90 minutes: $900
  • 2 hours: $1,200

Read more about Hands-On Sex Education

A gentle, guided series of sessions to build confidence, develop intimacy skills and explore at your own pace.

For some people, a single educational session is exactly what they’re looking for. For others, building comfort, familiarity and confidence takes a little more time.

My Intimacy Exploration Programme is designed for people who would benefit from a slower approach to sexual intimacy.

It’s particularly welcoming to queer people exploring unfamiliar territory, adult virgins and late bloomers, people returning to intimacy after years without it, and anyone who feels nervous, inexperienced or disconnected.

Over a series of appointments, we combine candid conversation, personalised intimacy coaching, practical skill-building and, where mutually comfortable, sexual experiences.

Our introductory session is two hours long, with the first hour dedicated to conversation and getting to know each other. No nudity, no physical touch, and no expectation that anything physical needs to happen afterwards.

From there, we can continue through shorter follow-up sessions, developing familiarity and confidence as we go.

There’s no expectation that each session becomes progressively more physical, or that we’re working towards a particular sexual achievement.

Investment

  • Introductory session (2 hours): $900
  • Up to three follow-up sessions (90 minutes each): $700 per session
  • Complete four-session programme: $3,000

Special programme rates are offered to clients whose goals suit this style of ongoing educational work.

There’s no requirement to pay for the whole programme upfront, and no obligation to continue if you decide it’s not right for you.

Read more about Intimacy Exploration Programme, or my page about Queer Intimacy Exploration.

For people who want to explore sex, intimacy, relationships and personal development without engaging in sexual activity.

Candid Sex Ed Chats

Have a hundred questions about sex? Let’s talk!

How do I pleasure a woman? What’s the difference between different kinds of orgasms? How do I introduce something new to my sex life? What exactly is pegging? How does arousal work?

Sometimes you just want somebody who’s comfortable talking about sex to sit down with you and answer your questions.

My Candid Sex Ed Chats are relaxed, open conversations about sex, sexuality, pleasure, anatomy, techniques, relationships and whatever else you’re curious about.

I draw on years of practical experience as a sex worker and educator, and I’m very happy to share what I’ve learned.

There’s no structured programme or introductory consultation required. Just bring your questions, and we’ll see where the conversation takes us.

These sessions are entirely conversational, with no nudity or physical touch.

Investment

  • 30 minutes (phone or text): $150
  • 1 hour: $250
  • 90 minutes: $350
  • 2 hours: $450

Read more about Candid Sex Ed Chats

Understand yourself, communicate your needs and develop more fulfilling intimate relationships.

Where my Candid Sex Ed Chats are primarily about acquiring knowledge, Intimacy Coaching is about understanding yourself and developing skills you can put into practice.

It’s less “How do I do this?” and more “How do I get more of what I actually want?”

Perhaps you struggle to recognise or communicate your desires, find yourself people-pleasing, or have difficulty establishing boundaries.

Maybe you’re unhappy with aspects of your intimate relationship but aren’t entirely sure what needs to change.

Perhaps you and your partner have settled into familiar sexual routines, have different levels of desire, or find conversations about sex difficult.

Or perhaps you’re simply curious about how you could develop a more satisfying relationship with intimacy.

A Personalised Approach

All ongoing Intimacy Coaching begins with a two-hour introductory consultation.

This gives us an opportunity to really get to know each other, explore your experiences, discuss your goals, and identify the things you’d like to understand or develop.

After our meeting, I’ll spend some time reflecting on what we’ve discussed and considering which approaches, exercises and areas of exploration might be most useful for you.

Subsequent sessions are personalised and may involve conversation, education, practical communication exercises, embodied learning or principles from Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent.

There’s no rigid curriculum or fixed number of sessions. We can adjust our approach as we learn more about what works for you.

Coaching for Couples

Couples are welcome to attend together, individually, or alternate between the two.

Sometimes one partner might benefit from some private space to explore their desires, insecurities or experiences without their partner present.

Perhaps one person has more personal work they’d like to do, or wants to become clearer about their feelings before discussing them together.

I encourage this kind of individual exploration and offer reduced rates for solo appointments within an established couples coaching relationship.

We’ll establish clear expectations around privacy and communication before beginning, so both partners understand how individual and shared sessions work.

The aim isn’t to decide who’s right or wrong, or to convince either partner to do things they don’t want to do. It’s to develop greater awareness, understanding and practical skills that support a more fulfilling relationship.

Investment

All introductory consultations (2 hours): $450

Ongoing sessions:

Session Type1 Hour2 Hours
Individual Coaching$200$350
Couples Coaching$250$450
Individual Coaching Within a Couple$175$300

All sessions are non-sexual and may include conversation, reflection and consensual, fully clothed exercises.

Read more about my Couples Intimacy Coaching sessions.

Learn to recognise what you want, communicate it clearly, and understand the dynamics of consent.

Have you ever found yourself saying, “I don’t know what I want”?

Or perhaps you know exactly what you want, but struggle to ask for it.

My Embodied Choice Coaching guides you through Somatic, body-mind practical exercises to help you feel back into your body. It also draws on Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent, a framework for understanding the different dynamics of giving, receiving, taking and allowing.

Through conversation and practical, non-sexual embodied exercises, we explore how to recognise your authentic desires, understand your boundaries, communicate your preferences and make choices with greater clarity.

These sessions are not specifically about sex. These skills can be transformative in friendships, family relationships, professional interactions and everyday life, and improving your sex life is a nice bonus.

Embodied Choice Coaching can be booked as a dedicated learning experience, or incorporated into ongoing Intimacy Coaching when it’s relevant to your goals.

Investment

  • Introductory session (2 hours): $450
  • Ongoing session (1 hour): $200
  • Ongoing session (2 hours): $350

Read more about Embodied Choice Coaching

Not Sure Where to Begin?

That’s completely okay.

Perhaps you have a specific question, or maybe you’ve simply recognised that something about your relationship with sex or intimacy could be better.

You don’t need a clearly defined problem, and you certainly don’t need to know which educational approach would be most useful.

I’m happy to have an initial conversation about what you’re looking for and help you choose an appropriate service.

My approach is warm, candid, curious and collaborative. I’m interested in helping people develop greater awareness, confidence and choice, rather than telling them what their relationships or sexuality should look like.

My coaching services are educational rather than clinical. They aren’t psychotherapy, psychological treatment or relationship counselling, and I don’t diagnose or treat mental health conditions.

I offer appointments in Melbourne’s western suburbs and the Geelong region, with some conversational services also available remotely.

You’re welcome to contact me via SMS or WhatsApp on 0435 349 800.

Tell me a little about what you’re interested in exploring, and we can work out where to begin.

You don’t have to have all the answers. That’s what learning is for.